Category: simplify

Choices we make

May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.

~ Nelson Mandela

We all make choices. We think we made a good choice when things work out and when things don’t work out, we kick our-selves for making a bad one.All choices we make, good or bad, leads to only one destination. It’s Death.

Show me at least one person who altered his destination from the choices he made. No one. Whatever we do, one day we will just die. So, now the destination is set. We cannot change it, but still we worry about our choices. That is because of the quality of life we may lead until we die. Choose to live with hope, with positive thinking and let go of things which you cannot change.

By being positive, things won’t change. It will remain as it is – realistic, but it stops pulling you down from inside. It will help you stop worrying.Once you stop worrying, you can think little more clearly and your common sense will work better. It will help you to come out of any problem which you may be going through, right now.

The quality of your life depends on how you are inside yourself and very little on what you own. It depends very little on your surroundings or the people surrounding your life.

Let go of your ‘good choices’ and ‘bad choices’. Just choose. See what you get for what you choose. Learn from it.

Go slow. Take it easy. Try and fail. It’s alright, but be sure to win from inside.

 

 

Going goal-less

“A good traveller has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.” ~ Lao Tzu

One of the most beautiful things which I did to myself this year is dropping all my goals, ambitions and plans. Dropping doesn’t mean I am going to be lazy. It just means that am going get involved in the moment, right now, fully without worrying or planning much about what I should be doing and what I should be aiming.

What I have understood by having goals and achieving them is this.

  1. While I am working towards a goal, I am anxious. I am worried about success and failures (even though I embrace failures). I still have to make contingency plans. If I do not have a plan B, I suffer more from anxiety. ‘Burn your escape boats’ – strategy did not work for long.
  2. If I reach my goal. I feel like, “It’s not this”. I feel like, “It doesn’t feel so great as I thought it would be”. All I do next is, write down another goal which is tougher and higher and start pushing myself everyday to reach that, which increases anxiety inturn.

 

So what if I just drop all my goals. Then the first question which hits my head is “What if I turn out to be a failure?” then I said to myself, wait a second. If you do what you are doing right now with full involvement and commitment, will you end up as a failure? Hell No! I would actually be successful in my career or whichever path I am in.

Going goal-less is helping me to declutter my life. I can easily remove distractions out of my day. I can simply ask what is that important thing which I have to do now and I just involve in it completely with joy. In the process, I have learned that every kind of work has joy in it when it is done well with complete involvement.

So many years have passed by having outrageous goals. Let me live goal-less for a year and see where I end up.

Any place is beautiful and full-filling, if we are there completely.